HI there, this is going to be one of those short and sweet ones. I could go on and on about this subject and maybe I will go more into detail some other time. But for now, this is it.
The idea for this blog came to me while we were on holiday. As I sat with my feet in the kiddie pool, I did the human thing and looked around. I couldn't help myself but make comparisons. Comparing myself to other moms with "better" bodies, looking at other parents, young couples without kids, older people on holiday together.
I used to have the "grass is greener on the other side" mentality and would feel like I always came out the lesser one. But this time things were different. My mindset change made me notice other things, not only see the seemingly better things other people had.
I also saw a lot of things that made me feel proud of who I am as a parent and the way Niels and I are together.
Parents dropping off their kids at the "kids club" day after day, while they were lounging and drinking by the pool their kids were entertained by some stranger. Couples not speaking, both parents on their phone at dinner while kids are watching a movie on the iPad.
And yes I know how judgemental this must come off and in some way it is. I do have certain feelings about this and I have spoken out about things like this before. But I also know nobody is perfect and everybody does things their own way.
All the things I saw, the good and the bad, made me see that comparison isn't such a bad thing.To me it's directly opposite.
It makes you realise what you've got, how far you've come and maybe even where you want to go.
And if there is something, out of all those things you see that you envy.... It gives you a goal and purpose.
Something you can aspire to be.
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